| If you are looking for someone for romance, Costa Rica
might just be the right place for you.
Ladies will find gentleman admirers if they so desire. Due
to machismo, Costa Rican men are more flirtatious and
aggressive than North American men. Most Costa Rican men think
foreign women have looser morals and are easier conquests
than ticas (Costa Rican women). Be careful to take
time to develop a long-term, meaningful relationship and do
not rush things.
As one local expat pointed out, Tico men have the
best labia in the world. Labia when used in
slang, means rap.'Costa Rican men are charming, witty, and
know how to treat a woman. They can seduce almost any woman,
regardless of nationality. I have a few tico friends
that could get a woman into their car and to a mirador
overlooking the city within five minutes of meeting them.
Usually, however, these relationships, if you can call them
that, don't last too long. The conquest is a big part of the
tico male's psyche, and then it's off to the next one.
Don't be fooled by these modern-day Casanovas, that
is of course, unless you want to.
Many single middle-aged women have a tough time finding a
mate because they cannot compete with the young curvaceous
ticas. As one expat woman put it, ”We just happen
to live in a country of trafficstopping gorgeous women, all
of whom seem to have been raised in the Geisha School of Relating
to Men. If you are planning to move here based on some dream
of meeting a Ricky Martin or other Latin stud, think again.
Furthermore, if you do meet a Latin man, he may have a hard
time handling an independent American woman. Latin men also
like to have a lot of girlfriends on the side. As we mention
in Chapter 1 many Latin men measure their virility by the
number of women they can seduce.
Men of any age will have no problem meeting Costa Rican women.
The women in Costa Rica seem to like older, more experienced
men. It is not unusual to see a wife who is 10 to 20 years
younger than her spouse. This practice may be frowned on in
some countries but is accepted in Costa Rica. Many retirees
we know claim to feel rejuvenated and to have a new lease
on life after becoming involved with younger women. Costa
Rican women have an unparalleled reputation as being the most
beautiful, flirtatious and accessible women in Latin America,
including Brazil. The ladies of Costa Rica are more warm-hearted
and devoted than their North American counterparts. They consider
you a joy. One retiree we know boasts, The women here really
know how to treat you like a king!
A man doesn't even have to be rich to meet women; a $1,500
to $2,000 Social Security check translates to a millionaire's
pay in Costa Rica.
Here is what one expat's Costa Rican wife said about her
relationship in a recent edition of The Tico Times.
Most of the time when a young woman marries an older man,
people think she's doing it for the money. I like older men.
They are experienced; they've had a lot of fun in the past,
so they start to think, I want to stay now with someone for
the rest of my life.'Plus they have their life set up, so
they have time to spend with their woman.
With Costa Rican men close to her age, she says, their behavior
changes after marriage. With Costa Rican men, you are a princess,
but when you get married the whole thing changes: You are
going to have my children. I'm working, so you should make
my dinner, wash my clothes.The women get submissive and the
men get possessive.
Costa Rican men don't see their women in the home being the
porn star they watch on TV. Ticos think the woman at
home is pretty, sweet and the mother of their children.
No wonder Costa Rican women are highly sought by foreign
men. However, before becoming involved with a Costa Rican
woman, you should realize many cultural differences can lead
to all kinds of problems, especially if you do not speak Spanish
fluently. I have seen so many disasters with people who try
to create a relationship without a common language. If a Costa
Rican woman is in your future, you are going to have to be
able to communicate with her. Even if she speaks some English,
the nitty-gritty type of communication that a real relationship
requires will definitely require some effort on your part.
Men need to seriously consider studying Spanish if they want
to have a successful relationship with a native Spanish speaker.
Generally, Latin women are more jealous and possessive than
American women, and tend not to understand our ways unless
they have lived in North America. Also, be aware that because
of their comparative wealth, most Americans, especially the
elderly, are considered prime targets for some unscrupulous
Latin females.
As we alluded to at the end of the first chapter, in some
cases there is another bad side of marrying a Costa Rican
woman. You can end up supporting her whole family, either
directly or indirectly, as many foreigners complain. There
is an out-of-print book, Happy Aging With Costa Rican Women
The Other Costa Rica, by James Y. Kennedy. It tells
all about the trials and tribulations and experiences many
gringos have with Costa Rican women. You may be able
to find a used copy in a second-hand bookstore in San José
or borrow it from a local expatriate.
We advise you to give any relationship time and make sure
a woman is sincerely interested in you and not just your money.
You will save yourself a lot of grief and heartaches in the
long run. Since prostitution is legal and available to men
of all ages, be careful of the ladies of ill repute. Many
foreigners, after inviting one of these females to spend the
night, wake up the next day without the woman and minus wallets
and other valuables.
One scam we recently heard of involves a well-dressed woman
with a brief case who approaches strangers. She claims to
be from another Latin American country and wanting to celebrate
her birthday. She says she is alone and has nobody to celebrate
it with her. She then invites the unsuspecting victim to accompany
her to a bar for a drink. Once in the bar, she slips a drug
into the glass of the foreigner. Within minutes he is unconscious.
The woman then relieves him of his cash and credit cards.
She then takes the credit cards to an accomplice who quickly
charges large amounts of money to the cards. So, never drink
from a glass or bottle that has been out of your sight.
Most single men can avoid getting involved with gold diggers,
prostitutes or other troublesome women if they know where
to look for good women. The personals section of the The
Tico Times is an excellent place to advertise for companionship.
It is relatively inexpensive and many Costa Rican women read
this section each week. Check out the current or past issues
of the The Tico Times for ideas on how to write one
of these ads.
One American we know ran an ad in the The Tico Times and
the local Spanish newspapers and ended up screening hundreds
of women before finding his ideal mate. As far as we know
he is still happily married. Taking classes at the university
is another way to meet quality women. The University of Costa
Rica in San Pedro is full of beautiful, well-educated females.
Cafés, restaurants, bars and other places around the
university are good places to meet women. If you have Costa
Rican friends, they will usually be able introduce you to
someone worthwhile.
The best places for anyone to meet nice women who are sincere
and honest tend to be where they would be almost anywhere.
Go to church or get involved in a community service project.
Most people meet their friends and mates at work. So work
at something, even if as a volunteer. If you have Costa Rican
friends, they will usually be able introduce you to someone
worthwhile.
Meeting people in bars, nightclubs, at the beach, etc., is
generally a lousy way to meet someone you really want to have
a relationship with anywhere in the world.
Probably the most effective way to meet quality Costa Rica
women is through an introduction service. Spanish Eyes Introductions
provides such a service and screens their women very carefully
to protect their clients. In addition to their standard services,
they offer parties for their members to meet women. We have
several friends who are members and rave about this service.
You may contact them at: Tel: 289-5271 or 228-7389, E-mail:
info@spanisheyesccostarica. com or see http://www.spanisheyescostarica.com.
The key is to find a nice, traditional Costa Rican woman
and avoid getting involved with bad Costa Rican women. Costa
Rica has plenty of working girls and hustlers. They hang out
at the popular bars and discos specifically to pick up guys.
They also go shopping in the malls, ride buses and go to grocery
stores. So just because you have met a nice girl in a typical
working-girl hang-out does not mean you have met a quality
person. If you know what to look for, they are easy to spot.
Many men have knowingly and unknowingly married bad women.
Some girls are honest and will directly ask you for money.
The hustlers are more dangerous because their agenda is
to really take you to the cleaners, and they do not rule out
marrying you to achieve this objective. Some men say they
have lost everything from airline tickets that are cashed
instead of used, to large sums of money the girls claim they
need to get visas, houses and more. These are the women who
contribute to the bad stories you may hear about some Costa
Rican women. Unfortunately, the hustlers are the easiest girls
to meet in many instances and a good number of men fall into
this trap.
A very small number of these women will become good wives,
find religion, etc. They are often women who have been sexually
or otherwise abused at a very young age, so the problem is
very deeply rooted. Your realistic chances of converting them
are very slim. No matter how gorgeous the girl is, it is just
not worth it.
The best way to spot a bad girl is her profile. They never
have a job, never live with their parents, never have phone
numbers and never invite you to their home or introduce you
to their friends or family. They do not want to leave any
trail for you to track them down later. They typically come
from very poor backgrounds and have very little education,
rarely completing high school.
They are quite aggressive and target older Americans. Often
they speak a little English and will start up a conversation
with you or smile at you until you make the first move. They
will appear friendly and sincerely interested in you. They
are always attractive or very young. They will always ask
for your phone number.
Perhaps the best way to politely get rid of one of these
women is to ask them to loan you a little money. You will
immediately see their interest disappear. Actually, a nice
woman in Costa Rica might just loan you the money.
Women you see working in stores are usually poorly educated
and from poor families. Some may show an interest in an older
American who is friendly with them, but the relationship is
likely to be overly influenced by a poor woman looking for
a rich American husband.
Foreign men should beware of the so-called Costa Rican setup.We
have heard countless stories where Costa Rican women get pregnant
as a ploy to get a foreigner to marry them. We believe it
is our duty to alert men about this underhanded and self-centered
method of ensnaring them into an unwanted relationship.
In general, a nice Costa Rica woman typically lives with
her parents until she gets married. Single daughters are not
encouraged to get jobs unless the parents are very poor. Instead,
they are expected to help with taking care of the house or
study.
Quality Costa Rican women from traditional family backgrounds
are raised to take care of their man. They can be quite possessive
and jealous at times, but this is only because they are very
emotional and deeply in love with their man. They tend to
seek out long-term relationships, starting at a very young
age. It is quite rare for Costa Rican women to have any interest
in casually dating many different men.
Costa Rica's Beautiful Women
When approached by strangers, they are friendly
and helpful by nature; this is their culture. All Costa Ricans
value making new friends. Americans often misread this friendliness
and think the woman has a romantic interest in them. In order
for the woman to develop any romantic interest in you at all,
she has to first know from a trusted third party that you
are looking for a long-term relationship. After a brief encounter,
a decent woman will never ask for your phone number. If you
ask for her number, she will always give you the wrong number
in order to avoid appearing rude. Nice women live with their
parents and would never want to have strange men calling their
house. From a romantic interest point of view, quality Latin
women are very difficult to meet.
As we alluded to earlier, some Costa Rican women prefer older
men. Most Costa Rican women meet a boy in high school and
are only interested in men their own age. However, about 40
percent do seriously prefer older men. We have met many Costa
Rican friends who are happily married to women 10 to 25 years
younger than them.
If the woman is convinced you are seriously looking for a
longterm relationship, she will then start to show an interest
in getting to know you better. Her initial physical attraction
to you will usually be of very minor importance to her. Her
main interest will be focused on your personality: Are you
are a kind person? Can you offer minimum security to raise
a family? Do you sincerely care about her family? Would you
make a good father?
Over the years we have encountered a lot of foreigners who
end up not using common sense and get involved with people
with whom they would probably never associate back home. This
brings us to the story of Dumb and Dumber.
Dumb came to Costa Rica about 12 years ago from the United
States, where he was a successful businessman. Almost upon
arriving here, he became romantically involved with a woman
of ill- repute. He was basically too lazy and busy getting
drunk to find a quality mate. Over the course of his relationship,
he lost about $300,000 because he entrusted his business dealings
to his girlfriend. After splitting up with her and having
to give her half of everything he owned because of their common-law
situation, he goes and gets involved with another women who
will probably take him to the cleaners someday.
Dumber is even more stupid than Dumb. He came to the country
as a millionaire. The first thing he did was get romantically
involved with a woman of the night. Dumber also spent most
of his time in bars, like Dumb. Consequently, when he broke
up with his lady friend, after a few years together, he had
to pay her about $50,000. He is now with another woman and
most likely supporting her whole family. He will probably
end up broke like Dumb. Neither Dumb nor Dumber speak Spanish
nor have made any effort to understand the locals and constantly
refer to them in derogatory terms.
The majority of foreign men who come to Costa Rica don't
share Dumb and Dumber's fate. Nevertheless, they should learn
a lesson from this story.
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